Monday, February 22, 2010

Beware of Helping Husband part II

I have mused on wether to post this, but I think it is insightful so here it is.

A few weeks ago, the girls were doing their life skills. However, they have switched jobs - not a good thing.

DH worked every weekend in January when bathroom training was happening. This morning in an effort to help, he started the girls on their life skills. That was very sweet, however, he just let them loose, chemicals and all with no supervision and let them choose what skill they wanted to do. Then he went downstairs and had breakfast and assumed that he could then go do something else.

Let me tell you the problems with this so that you can avoid the same mistakes. First, before they switch, they need to be able to perform the particular skill satisfactorily, WITH NO SUPERVISION. Then they can move onto something else. It is important they they keep repeating the same skill until that happens (remember the 3-7 times of teaching from a few posts ago.)

Secondly, then they actually train each other on the skill they have learned thus engraining it even deeper. If you can teach it, that's when you really know it. While doing this they are also learning how to do training, which will be important to them as adults in the work force.

Third, this shows that communication between BOTH parents is crucial, as it is in everything that you do with your kids. I assumed that they would do their same skills - that was the plan in my mind, he just wanted to get them started and help out.

I have to admit I lost it. I walked into the bathroom to see how they were doing and it wasn't good. The quality was terrible! He didn't understand what the big deal was. So I told him that today he has to train the girls on the new skills they are doing- and to his credit he is. Hopefully we will all learn from this mistake.

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